Little things that matter

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So many people feel that little things like getting a small handmade card on a special day, or getting complimented for work done well can be taken for granted. Saying the three magical words - please , thank you and sorry can just about resolve any issue. There’s always the eternal wait for something big or dramatic to happen wherein, they turn out to be the saviors or hero of the day!Ha! keep  waiting. 
Do everything that you do, with love and to the best of your ability. Do it because it gives you pleasure! not because of the praise or laurels that you will get for work done well . Even at your home, this should be the driving force. Something to ponder over...
Today I was shopping for grocery in a supermarket. There were people of all kinds: -breaking queues with a sic kind of panache, -people putting things at random in their trolleys, -some taking a limited amount of things after a great consideration and comparison. Among all this hurry blurry a small six or seven year old young man walked into an aisle closely followed by his mom. Before he could take another step the mother caught hold of his arm and said : “come on , please I said that I am sorry.” the child took his own time to grant retribution to his mom , going on to say at a point “ you said you will not say it ...? / why did you...” and the mom kept on apologizing in a very matter of fact way or rather in a manner to get over and done with the incident.
Teaching by example ... At the end of this, as a casual bystander I felt that the adult had as usual tried to get away from a sticky situation by mere lip service. In the process had sent the message to the child, that merely saying sorry is enough and as a mom I love you so much that I am apologizing! Ha doing such a favour to you . The child was placated, feeling all important in a wrong way. The feeling that wow my mom will apologize to me when ever I feel like throwing a tantrum was -kind of of spreading its roots insidously in the young , impressionable mind. Personally , I felt that it was taking a situation a tad bit too far. Ofcourse grownups too, need to to apologise if they err. Think over it!   

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